Following the flow of hustle bustle of life and often overlooked on whether we are showing good examples in being a better human to our children. Lets refresh and make sure to hold on to the best advice by the famous Sadhguru.
1) Creating good ambience. Good atmosphere for nurturing the little human beings is by giving them the love and support needed that will automatically let the intelligence in them grow. Right ambience here consist of little sense of joy, love, care and discipline.
2) Knowing what the child needs and avoid putting them under due stress and hardship. We can't be the parent who wants our children achieve what we missed in our life and also the parents who pamper and make the children useless and powerless to live in this challenging world. We have to practice moderateness in setting expectations on them. Know what inspires them and what the wants in life
"Once, there was a yogi who belonged to a certain tradition called Kashmir Shaivism. This is one of the seven forms of yoga. It is a very powerful form, but it has mostly remained in the Kashmir area, so it acquired that name. One day, this yogi saw a cocoon which was slightly cracked, and the butterfly inside was really struggling to come out – the cocoon shell was too hard. Usually, the butterfly struggles constantly for almost forty-eight hours to come out of the cocoon. If it does not come out, it will die. The yogi saw this and out of his compassion he used his nail and opened the cocoon so that the butterfly could come free. But when it came out, it could not fly. It is that struggle to break out of the cocoon which empowers the butterfly to use its wings and fly. What is the use of a butterfly that cannot fly? A lot of people, in what they think is love for their children, have made their children like this. The children don’t fly in their life." ~ Sadhguru
3) To try and learn from children. This is very meaningful and deep. I often carried out in pretext of being her teacher rather than enjoying the moments with her. There are lot of things in my bucket list that i wanted to do with her during toddler years which i have still missed. Its good that sometimes we let go and be like them.. just enjoy the moment and be happy.
4) Just let them be.. oh yeah.. i would say i failed in this. When we raise the children it have to be in a way that they should be independent and never have a need for a parent. But Little Reya will be always tagging along with me most of the time. Though she is 4 years old now, she still practically awaits for me in front of bathroom some times for me to finish my bath and plays with her.
5) Last but not the least and as said always be a joyful parent and transform own self. Avoid tensions, anger, fear and jealousy. Its good to change yourself before changing how you want your child to be and it can be done with full of wisdom.
For more detailed write up on this awesome parenting skills, please do visit: http://isha.sadhguru.org/blog/lifestyle/relationships/parenting-advice-skills/.
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